Buying lingerie for your wife or girlfriend can be a daunting task, but it doesn’t have to be, with a few logical things to think about. Yes, sometimes this can be difficult, to think logically when buying lingerie, think your buying it for her not for you.
Lingerie can be a tricky subject, especially if your wife or girlfriend is a little uncomfortable with her body. This are ways around this though, as we are about to find out. Requires a little tactic and even some patience comes into play.
Few things to think about.
Sometimes women don’t like to wear lingerie if they don’t like the way they look in certain clothing. How would they feel in skimpy material they feel they are spilling out of or doesn’t fit them properly? Not great.
However, most of us like a beautiful bra and panty set, sexy pjs (if she wears pjs, more on this point later), and pretty chemises. If your wife/girlfriend isn’t crazy about her body, this may be a good place to start. If you get her something she doesn’t like, it is often that she doesn’t like the way she looks in it (even if you think she looks spectacular), or that you are implying something sexually that is outside of her comfort zone. There’s a good chance she is gonna read into that purchase in ways that you cannot even begin to imagine. Little scared? Don’t be, lets delve a bit more.
When speaking with women whose husbands regularly purchase lingerie for them and do it right, there are patterns we noticed:
- Men have done their research (the logical step I was talking about before)
- They have specific brands they like and are comfortable buying. Usually the brands their wife/girlfriend buys. Make sense hey.
- They have a particular store they go to. They know what their wife likes, and what they like too.
- They know her sizes.
- They give lingerie as gifts for occasions or just surprises, which means several times a year (ie not just on Valentines Day).
- They vary the kind of lingerie they buy each time, but still within their wives/girlfriends style. Meaning, a bra and panties, chemise, or thong or corset.
Ok, so we’ve looked at some reasons behind the normal problems when men buy lingerie for their wife/girlfriend, and what men do right when they get it right.
Here’s 6 or 7 strategies, or things to think about to get it right. Everyone will approach it slightly differently, but as long as a few important things are followed, no need to stress, enjoy it.
Remember the goal is to figure out what works for your wife/girlfriend over time (the patience part) so you can independently pick out things that work for her.
1. Get the size right. Critical guys, absolutely critical. Rummage through her lingerie drawer and look at bras (band size and cup size) and panties sizes. Knowing this info gives you the best start.
2. While you’re rummaging through her lingerie draw, get an idea of the kinds of shapes and colours she likes. This includes the materials too. Does she have a lot of thongs, boyshorts, or silk chemises? Whatever it is, keep the things you see in the back of your mind.
3. Order for her online, if you know her exact size and brand. A lot of sites have a huge variety of sexy lingerie, more so than lingerie boutiques, so if you cant find her brand in the store, you be able to online.
4. If your wife has never worn a thong, don’t buy her one… please
5. Buy her a gift certificate to a good lingerie store (not a general department store that sells lingerie) and tell her to treat herself to something nice. Make a note of what she buys and then copy that item in a different pattern 2-3 months down the line (or if you can’t wait, 2-3 weeks).
6. Know her body type, and what phase of life she’s in. If she’s given birth to your beautiful child recently, don’t buy tight stuff. If she’s been hitting the gym, and noticing the difference, feeling good, maybe look for something that shows you’ve noticed, in her style. Let her buy something like this before you do.
7. Start conservatively. Get more daring WITH her over time.
The goal here is to figure out what she likes, what she feels comfortable in, and what styles work for her. Then, over time, as you get more comfortable, you can both try something new and different together…
